Welcome to The Whole Stepfamily™
Where Stepfamilies become Stronger, Together
Blending a family is one of the hardest—and most rewarding—things you’ll ever do. It’s layered, emotional, and sometimes overwhelming. But peace at home isn’t luck—it’s a skill you can learn, and we’re here to guide you every step of the way.
Did you know that 67% of second and 75% of third marriages will fail?
1,300 new stepfamilies form every day in the U.S. alone.
67 percent of them will fail.
The stress creeps in.
Resentment starts corroding what was supposed to be a once-in-a-lifetime love.
The home that was meant to be your sanctuary starts feeling like a battleground.
And not because they don’t love each other.
Not because they aren’t trying. Most stepfamilies fall apart because no one ever taught them how to create stability in a structure that wasn’t designed to function like a traditional family.
Most people cross their fingers, hoping they’ll just “figure it out”.
If you’ve ever thought, “I love my family, so why does it feel this hard?”—you’re not alone.
The good news? Stepfamily stability isn’t luck. It’s science. And you can learn exactly what’s needed to create it.
Stepfamily Life Isn’t Just ‘Normal Family Life With Extra People.’
Did anyone ever tell you that stepfamily relationships follow a completely different set of rules?
If not, it’s no wonder you’re struggling.
Stepfamily life isn’t just a slightly more complicated version of a traditional family.
it’s an entirely different ecosystem—one with unique power dynamics, pressures, and attachment bonds.
✔ Are you living in a home where you’re affected by decisions you didn’t get to make?
✔ Do you feel like an outsider in your own family, never quite sure where you fit?
✔ Are you walking a tightrope between being?
These aren’t personal failures. They are predictable challenges that require an entirely different approach.
Your First Step: The Peace Palace Quiz
The Peace Palace Quiz isn’t just for fun—it’s your key to understanding how we can best support you and your family.
➜ Unlock your Peace Palace Room — and reveal what it says about your current family dynamics
➜ Get a personalized roadmap — with guidance tailored to your unique challenges and opportunities
➜ See your best next step with us — whether that’s a consultation call, group coaching, or connecting inside our private community.
What Happens When a Stepfamily Falls Apart?
When stepfamilies collapse, it’s not just another breakup.
✔ Did you know that children who experience multiple family separations have higher rates of anxiety, depression, and relational difficulties later in life?
✔ Did you know that financial instability is one of the leading stressors in second and third marriages?
✔Did you know that unresolved co-parenting conflicts can cause stress levels equivalent to high-conflict litigation, even years after divorce?
The fallout isn’t just emotional. It’s systemic.
✔ Another home lost. Children who already had to rebuild after one separation now have to do it again.
✔ Another fracture in the foundation. Co-parents who were just starting to find common ground are thrown back into instability.
✔ Another cycle of stress and burnout. Families carry unresolved grief, emotional exhaustion, and the deep weight of "trying again" for years.
But here’s what most people don’t realize: Breakdown isn’t inevitable. Stepfamilies who understand their developmental stage and adjust accordingly can not only survive—they can thrive.
Who The Heck Are We?!
Brittany Shakti Lynch, RN, BScN, CSC
Brittany Lynch is a globally-recognized Peace & Power Governance Architect, visionary guide, and former registered nurse who now works at the intersection of trauma, leadership, and divine design.
As the founder of Stepqueen™, The WHOLE Stepfamily™, Author of Stepfamilies In Bloom™, Host of Queen Of Your Castle™ Podcast, and creator of WHOLE Leadership™, Brittany has pioneered a new era of family structure—one that brings peace to the world through nervous system sovereignty, trauma-informed governance, and conscious thought leadership at home.
Her work dissolves generational chaos and replaces it with sacred strategy.
With a rare fusion of maternal wisdom and militant clarity, Brittany guides lovers, leaders, and legacies to remember who they are, reclaim what was stolen, and realign with the power they were born to hold.
Her signature frameworks blend clinical precision with mystical intelligence, initiating clients into legacies of peace, protection, and prosperity.
She leads private Spirit Quests, global retreats, and lineage-liberating mentorship containers including ORACLE, MATRIARCH, and PRIESTESS.
Brittany is currently writing a hundred books in her mind, building a digital empire from the forest while being out of pocket for days on end, and preparing to bring nervous system intelligence and peace-based policy into global institutions through Trojan horses dressed as Peace Avengers 🦸🏾♂️👩🏽🎤🦹🏼♂️🦸🏼♀️🦹🏻♀️🦹🏻♂️🧑🏿🎤🦸🏿👩🏻🎤
She believes the next revolution won’t be televised.
It will be embodied.
Because peace is your default setting,
And LOVE is who you are.
Sarah McDonald
Sarah is the Co-Owner of The Whole Stepfamily. She keeps the wheels turning and the magic flowing. Known for her rare combo of get-it-done energy and intuitive leadership, Sarah has been instrumental in scaling the organization from the inside out. She’s the steady hand behind the scenes—but don’t be fooled, she’s also the strategic spark making sure nothing stays small..
On the coaching side, Sarah works with high-tier private clients who are ready to stop explaining themselves and start owning their space. Her coaching is bold, intuitive, and unapologetically transformative. She’s the one you call when you’re done people-pleasing and ready to burn the old rulebook.
Because Sarah isn’t just coaching women to feel better—she’s coaching them to own their role as leaders in their households, set the tone, and stop waiting for permission to live fully in their power.
Currently, Sarah is developing a course dedicated to supporting stepmoms through the unique challenges of the “ours” baby season and postpartum experience. This work combines her professional expertise with her lived experience, offering stepmoms a roadmap to navigate new motherhood while honoring their identity, relationships, and emotional well-being.
And yes, she’s in the trenches too—rocking the stepmom savage with a side of bio mom-level chaos control and snack-deal finesse
Testimonials
“Before my wife started working with Brittny Lynch through The Whole Step Family, she struggled to find her role in our new blended family. She faced challenges with jealousy, uncertainty about how to parent (since she didn’t have children of her own), and feeling unsure of where she fit. After going through the program, I've seen a complete transformation. She's become more patient, understanding, and present not just with me but with our entire family. She's also learned to set healthy boundaries and has truly found her place in our blended family. This program has been a game-changer, and I'm so grateful for the positive impact its had on our relationship and home life. If you’re navigating the challenges of a stepfamily, I highly recommend The Whole Step Family.”
-Luke M, Bio Dad (Toronto, Canada)
"One day, in the middle of a crisis, I turned to Google and searched “Stepmom,” hoping for something—anything—that could help. I came across an online coach who handed me “trigger” worksheets, asking me to write down my feelings whenever something difficult came up in my stepfamily. Needless to say, that didn’t help. But what did
help was one simple piece of advice she gave me:
"Listen to The WHOLE Stepfamily podcast."
That moment changed everything and I immediately got in touch to discover more. What I’ve learned since meeting Brittany and Sarah has been truly life changing. The insights, the skills, the deep-rooted understanding of why conflict arises and how to navigate it—these are not just strategies for stepfamily life. These are tools you can take anywhere, anytime, and position yourself to succeed. There’s no one I wouldn’t recommend The Whole Stepfamilies work to. It’s a game-changer in the deepest, most undeniable way."
—Lisa H, Stepmom (Alaska, USA)
"Working with The Whole Stepfamily completely changed my stepfamily life. I’d tried books, I’d tried magazines, I’d tried forums. I had even tried finding a therapist on one of those websites, boy, was that an immediate disaster. Through avenues of searching, I found their webpage, and one look told me: this is who and what I want to be. I was so grateful they had space to work with me. The way I understood my stepchildren completely changed after some pivotal educational moments about children, and that shift alone was a huge win for our relationships and my sanity. Working with them, I was able to understand myself and observe myself in such a deep way, that, in real-time, knee jerk reactions could transform instead to some of the most meaningful and significant interactions with my step kids that I have had. Every stepfamily is different, and I think I was blessed with a pretty easy pair of step kids. But a ton of that “luck” was created by me by consciously and consistently working on myself with the The Whole Stepfamilies guidance. At my last birthday dinner, as we approached my step daughter’s high school graduation, I received the most heartfelt card from Brittany. Success in the area of stepmotherhood is difficult to measure, and is different for every family, but if it can be measured, I think that card was a grade of an A+. At that dinner, I also received a really wonderful card from my stepson. I am so proud of the relationships and memories I have created with my step kids. This is always an ongoing project, and I continue to experiment with how I choose to present myself and how our relationships will evolve as we all change through the years. There is always something new to navigate, and I’m so thankful I have Brittany, The Whole Stepfamily and a community to help me through when things get tough or I need an enlightenment boost!"
-Anne G, Stepmom (Colorado, USA)
What The Peace Palace Quiz Will give you
The Peace Palace Quiz is more than just a quick assessment—it’s the first step to creating a home filled with peace, clarity, and connection. When you take it, you’ll walk away with:
✅ Your Personalized Peace Palace Room — a symbolic “place” that reflects your current family dynamics and the hidden patterns shaping your home life.
✅ A Clear Roadmap Forward — specific insights and strategies tailored to your situation, so you’re not left guessing what to try next.
✅ Immediate Relief + Clarity — finally see that what you’re going through isn’t random or your fault—it’s understandable, predictable, and solvable.
✅ Your Best Next Step with Us — discover the exact way we can support you, whether through a consultation, group coaching, or our private community.
